I am a Hindu girl but my boyfriend is Muslim, he keeps complaining about my clothes that they are too modern and I should wear hijab whenever I meet him. He says that I should not show my face to other boys it is a sin. What should I do?
He seems to be picking and choosing what bits of his religion apply to him. He ought not to be marrying a non-Muslim girl and he ought not to be dating without any intention to marry.
If he is so concerned about the issues of haram and halal, then he should be consistent and choose a jeevan sathi who shares his deen.
I think if you are wise you will marry someone who shares your cultural and philosophical outlook. If he cannot find the integrity to be consistent and end the relation with you, you can help him out.
One Muslim reader then replied:
The Hindu girl should think twice if they want to continue their relation. If she is really interested in marrying a Muslim she should immediately convert to Islam. Let her future husband lead and guide her.
My response to this comment was: “I’m not convinced that adopting a religious confession purely out of romantic or sexual motivations is of any value at all in the eyes of God. God is interested in finding true faith in our hearts, faith which arises out of a thirst to know Him. A fine way to insult the Creator is to use Him as a tool to achieve some lower end.”
Is this the “Talking with imbeciles”, series, or what?
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Original Posting Date: 18/12/2020
Question as answered: I am a non Muslim Hindu girl but my boyfriend is Muslim, he keeps complaining about my clothes that they are too modern and I should wear hijab whenever I meet him. He says that I should not show my face to other boys it is a sin. What should I do?
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Regarding the Hindu girl,
I would be as modest as possible according to my believes, like I would not necessarily where a short skirt etc etc.
And then I would tell my Muslim boyfriend: “I am modest to my standards, but I am not willing to do anymore, if you don’t like it find yourself a Muslim gild, or convert to my religion, what is good for one of us should be good for the other”
Good luck with that. It might even work before the families of the two sides got involved. Without Capulets and Montagues you have no Romeo and Juliet tragedies.
He wants to date the girl, and already she is not good enough for him, If she has any sense at all she should dump him before it’s too late. I’m too angry to say any more than this but there is plenty going on in my head.
This is unfortunately a very common scenario, especially among persons of a creed that tells them they are superior.